*When the nights become darker than ever known, I will walk with you to the light*

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Went shopping at Bugis Village with Iris on sat.. nothing much to buy.. in fact i did not buy anything.. lolx!!

After shopping we went to eat long john silver coz i was too hungry.. =p After that we went to Balaclava since renovate already so we decided to go there n take a look..

Hmmmm well not bad la.. quite nice thou.. The stage is move to the side liao instead of in the middle.. But they have a piano in the middle lor.. My fren says after renovate already looks like Dragonfly.. -_- but i dun think so..

Stay at bala until tony knock off.. after that went to have supper then after that went to his house to zzzzz~~~~

Oh ya my husband already have a car liao le.. haha so happy~ Kenji sold his car to him at $600 (very cheap hor) to let him to continue the instalment..~~

It is very late now.. 3pm -_-'''

Off to bed i go!! wan an~!

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Friday, January 26, 2007

Decision Making ... sets you thinking

The story given below is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING.

Which one will you choose?

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. The train came, and you were just beside the track interchange.

You could make the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed.

Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.
Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and
sacrifice only one child.

You might think the same way, I guess.
Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most
of the children at the expense of only one child was the rational
decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on
the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe
place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant
friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This
kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the
office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society,
the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority,
no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted
and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The friend who forwarded me the story said he would not try to
change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing
on the operational track should have known very well that track was
still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.

If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die
because he never thought the train could
come over to that track!
Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe.

If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all
passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few
kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of
people to save these few kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to
be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always
be the right one.

"Remember that what's right isn't always popular...
and what's popular isn't always right."

Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.

gal83 saying love u at [11:28 PM]

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Tuesday, January 23, 2007

Yesterday tony was on leave coz Balaclava doing some revovation.. he was on leave since sat liao.. actually today also on leave de.. but the manager ask him to go back -_-

Yesterday was so happy coz everything i bought was my husband paying whahhaha!! Went to far east with my husband and Iris.. Reach there at about 5 and shop around till 8+..

Bought a white skirt from Chaos.. very cheap wor..!! $19 nia.. coz got discount ma.. if no discount, $69 ley.. -_- And bought a black n white lacy tube, 2 belts, Shu Uemura cleansing oil n KOSE white musk.. =D

Of course tony also got buy something la haha!! He bought a pants n a top.. wanted to buy a shoe but dun have his size..

gal83 saying love u at [1:58 PM]

I saw this in Iris's blog.. so i copy n paste from her.. n paste to my blog.. =x

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago. The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to
make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls. Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her.?At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind? although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more. When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in?my heart. The womanwho had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again. She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month's time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning. I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those
sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was?explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not
because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was?afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious. She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office. When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

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Sunday, January 21, 2007

The rabbit in a hamster's cage.. the owner very cruel lor.. The rabbit is so big.. but inside hamster's cage -_- of course the owner is not me la lolx!

Found the rabbit under the tree.. so poor thing.. but lucky i let him out for about 2 hours to run around my house.. =D

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Wednesday, January 17, 2007

So long no blog liao.. So i'm back to blog again.. haha!! sianz.. warm n sunny afternoon.. Tomorrow need to go Queentown for interview.. sianz.. go until so far tsk tsk tsk.. no choice gotta go.. coz my relative intro me de.. so lan lan lor.. have to go..

Found a white rabbit under a tree yesterday.. in a hamster's cage -_- ya i know very small cage.. so cruel.. imagine a big rabbit in a hamster's cage.. the rabbit have no other way to walk around.. can only lie there.. ke lian sia!! The rabbit semms to be ok.. very active, v fat n nice white fur.. the previous owner must have taken great care of the rabbit..

But how come the owner in the end wanna abandon the rabbit ley?? so cruel.. and so irresponsible.. lucky i saw the rabbit n bring into my house coz it was raining.. Fed him with some fresh vegetable n carrot.. and help him to change the bedding.. Put him out of the cage to run around my house for around 2 hours..

Call up the SPCA to come n take away the rabbit.. since no one wans.. but very sad.. coz if no ones adopt the rabbit, it might be put to sleep..

gal83 saying love u at [2:32 PM]

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Wednesday, January 03, 2007

HAPPY NEW YR!!!! i got nothing to blog so i juz post my favourite song lor hahaha!!!!

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