Monday, September 25, 2006
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated his call, wanted his touch and liked his idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there, doing nothing. Then something came along and happened to you.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens) and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages break down. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extra-marital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY, you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
The Key To Succeeding In Marriage Is Not Finding The Right Person; It's Learning To Love The Person You Found .
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labour of love" because it takes time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision "... Not just a feeling.
~ Love is never silent, it has so much to say & it is our greatest blessing when we give it away.
May Love and Peace be yours always ~
gal83 saying love u at [5:16 PM]
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.
To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!
When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E
because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others,
but how much we give of ourselves.
Our daily bread . . . . "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in setting silver" Proverbs 25.11
food for thought:
"The way we choose to walk often determines where we will end up !!"
** All bread are meant to be shared. God blesses us so we can be a blessing to others.
Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
gal83 saying love u at [4:58 PM]
Friday, September 22, 2006
About Scorpio
Scorpio is symbolized by the Scorpion. Intense and emotionally perceptive, they pick up on unspoken words and speak the language of gesture. Deep, mysterious and magnetically attractive, Scorpios yearn for emotional intimacy.People born under this sign are the most intense and passionate of the signs. Though they appear calm and quite but their anger can burst anytime like a volcano.
This ferocious anger often ends up making lifelong enemies. Scorpions are loyal as friend but a fanatic foe.They possess very strong intuitive power that helps them judge people. Scorpions also have immense degree of willpower and are highly tenacious, but are equally sensitive and therefore get easily moved by emotions of others. Scorpions are the least understood signs of the entire twelve.
Usually the Scorpio persons are of a secretive, timid, retiring nature, one who does not talk of his affairs. But there are also another type of Scorpions who are always ready to argue holding their point and during this they can become very cruel. They usually have an explosive temper. Such temper is often harmful for the health.
gal83 saying love u at [1:37 PM]
Thursday, September 21, 2006
laugh leads to a high 5
...a high 5 leads to a hug
...a hug leads to a kiss
...a kiss leads 2 makeout
...a makeout leads 2 finger
...a finger leads to a hand
...a hand leads to a lick
...a lick leads to a suck
...a suck leads 2 a fcuk.
So tell me how many people are you
gonna hug after you read this?? Coz sex is like a math.
...u add the bed
...subtract the clothes
...divide the legs
...leave your solution
...and pray you dont multiply!
gal83 saying love u at [1:35 AM]
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
True love never lives happily ever after - true love has no ending.
Love fails, only when we fail to love.
True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Mutual trust is built up over time but it can be destroyed in an instant.
gal83 saying love u at [1:57 PM]
Friday, September 15, 2006
Hey guys thats my cute hamster!! rem to feed her hor!!! =p
gal83 saying love u at [12:20 AM]
Monday, September 11, 2006
Having sore throat,flu and fever.. whats next?? cough?? omg i hope not!! i dun wanna lose my voice =p
gal83 saying love u at [8:01 PM]
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*Joyce, 24 yr old, Scorpio~
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