*When the nights become darker than ever known, I will walk with you to the light*

Tuesday, December 14, 2004

A Soulful Relationship

A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

"Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate an want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weeknesses, and strengths.

You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are prefect, but are you prefect for each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationship, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her.

You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else reponsible for your happiness or reponsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship!

Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humour, sharing household tasks, some getaway timw without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.

Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together.

Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.

Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation.

Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between United and Untied is where you put the "i"

gal83 saying love u at [5:45 PM]

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Sunday, December 12, 2004

mUsiC uNderGroUnd (MU)

Long time ago no din go to MusicUnderground (MU) liao le.. ytd juz went.. so surprise to see MU more and more cannot make it liao! the song that they played are all techno that previously played by Sparks Disco and WKRZ 91.3 *faintz* like these i rather stay at home and tune in to WKRZ and dance haha! And those gals also cannot make it.. They went up to the pole and dance like they are farking each other and moaning out loudz.. After feeling high they actually took off their top!! And left only bra! OMG!! I am not going there again! I rather go to my second home, devil's bar!! haha!!~

gal83 saying love u at [5:20 PM]

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